Deborah Tannen`s #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don`t Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women`s lives: the mother-daughter relationship. It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language - but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they really are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other`s power and underestimates her own.